FunmiObi

“I feel strongly about friendships. My friends are part of my support system, they mean so much.” Chioma said. I concur. I know I can be rather blunt sometimes especially when it concerns my relationships – God, my family, and friends. In secondary school, I used to tell my friends that I’m the only one permitted to make fun of my brother (whom I wanted to trade at the time). I always take it personally when anyone makes any comment about someone I love. I’m quite passionate if you ask me. My parents are my No. 1 fans. I remember when I called them for a ‘meeting’ and cried and apologized for disappointing them by not being able to get anything doing 2 weeks after school. They just laughed and told me to forget about it. Now that I’m so busy and can’t really help around as much, they cover up for me and help make the process easier for me. When the inspiration to start a blog came, I didn’t have a computer or a very functional phone at the time. I constantly had t...

Life can be like everything happening all at once and sometimes it can be so still and silent like you’re about to fall off the face of the earth (boring, yeah). 2019 came like a rushing wind and threw me off balance. This was the first year in my ‘must-be-organized’ life that I didn’t make any New Year plans of any sort. I just knew that I was going to need a lot of energy and endurance because I kept hearing it over and over again in my head “2019 – My year of energy”. At first, my mum laughed about it as she had never heard such but as the year took its course, I began to see that I really needed all the energy I could get. I enrolled for my professional exams this year and had to balance the classes with work and church training. Well, most days felt like ‘Are we there yet? Can I faint now?’ and sometimes I’d just go ‘Oh, whatever’ and sleep without worries. When I’d remember that I have a phone, I could just take a quick selfie and post it online to show that I’...

“No pressure, no diamonds.” (Thomas Carlyle) A lot has happened since the previous post on distant relationships and a lot of time has passed as well (4 months... phew!). It’s been more of a transition phase for me and I have felt emotions I never thought I would experience. Getting a job came with its excitement but working on the job and trying to maintain balance also came with its pressure. Some days I’d tell my dad that I just want to sleep and I’d keep pressing the snooze button till the sun came up and I’d have to make a mad dash to get ready for work in time.   I thought my life would be MADE by now but I still find myself lost and wanting more... I get under a lot of pressure sometimes and try to take deep breaths and tell myself ‘breathe girl, just breathe, it'll be alright’. I never thought growing up would be like this, it leaves me envying kids whenever I see them play. I’m always like ‘play now o, before you start thinking of getting a job’. ...

I love my best friend, Ozi. She means a whole lot to me but now we've graduated and she’s in Lagos while I’m in Abuja. Back in school, I would invade her room anytime I wished at no transport cost, gist without worries about insufficient airtime, hang out together with our ‘last card’ and watch movies with the lights out (munching a pack of Digestive while watching Edge of Seventeen was a blast!). Now things are quite different... She works so we can only talk when she’s available. I’m job hunting and I get so tired sometimes I forget to call. Recently, I started feeling the distance creeping in and I told her about it. She agreed that it was so we decided to talk about it but when we got talking, we just chattered on like old times. In every relationship, communication is vital more so in sustaining a distant relationship. If you start worrying about the other person and the distance is creeping in, buzz ‘em!  Talk about the past, present, future, i...

"What are we even going to do at home? I need to get job o!" I said. "It's even true, I  can't stay at home and be doing nothing, my parents won't even be smiling with me. Maybe I'll start selling buns in one primary school close to the house" Ada said jokingly and we all laughed in the room. "Abi o! But I would like to just get a job sharp sharp before NYSC and make some money at least" Amara said. As we talked, I couldn't help but think, what's next? So here's what, I just finished up my project, about to graduate from the university and I’m wondering what’s next? How do I get a job now? Will I get a job now??? We're all leaving school gradually. In fact, it's surprising when I get to see any of my classmates still around, we're like 'Hey! What are you doing here?'  And I'm wondering what's next? Well, I've always had my big fancy dreams of being in the corporate world, wor...

I met this guy when I went to buy fruits at night so it was quite dark and we couldn't see each other clearly. We did exchange contacts though it was really awkward trying hold a conversation with him. His language was a bit too much for me to handle (in terms of vulgarity) and I almost yelled ‘language man!’ While chatting, he kept asking me for my pictures so he could see me properly and requested that we become friends. I evaluated the ‘cost’ of having him as a friend and I said no. We had different value systems and I didn’t have the time to start correcting or aligning and keeping in touch. My final exams were only some weeks away, I had my project to think of and ‘friend issues’ and so many other things that were calling for my attention at the same time. If however, we were of like minds, it may have been easier but the first impression was already a disaster and the other impressions after that… I treasure my circle. The people I have in my...

“Relationships are supposed to be about trust…”  ( Sheila in Why Did I Get Married Too, 2010 ) Trust. Total trust. Complete trust… I just decided to give it a try… Not like this was a trust issue but I got insight (the light!) into something else. I was asked to choose between two bottles of water. One was half full while the other was lesser, more like a quarter of the bottle. So, he asked me “Which one do you want?” and I replied “Anyone you give me.” He smiled and gave me the bottle that was half full... Ordinarily, I would've chosen the lesser one (you know... be forming 'humble') and would've been left thinking probably ‘What if I had gone for the bigger one?’ or maybe not. Instantly, a thought flashed through my mind. So many times, we choose the lesser option because we think that’s what God would want us to have or as a sign of humility. But God actually wants us to have the best! Sometimes, we go for the lesser because we ...