Sustaining a Distant Relationship




I love my best friend, Ozi.

She means a whole lot to me but now we've graduated and she’s in Lagos while I’m in Abuja. Back in school, I would invade her room anytime I wished at no transport cost, gist without worries about insufficient airtime, hang out together with our ‘last card’ and watch movies with the lights out (munching a pack of Digestive while watching Edge of Seventeen was a blast!).

Now things are quite different...

She works so we can only talk when she’s available. I’m job hunting and I get so tired sometimes I forget to call. Recently, I started feeling the distance creeping in and I told her about it. She agreed that it was so we decided to talk about it but when we got talking, we just chattered on like old times.

In every relationship, communication is vital more so in sustaining a distant relationship. If you start worrying about the other person and the distance is creeping in, buzz ‘em! 

 Talk about the past, present, future, interests… gist freely as though you’re in the same room.

Be honest and open up if anything bothers you (don’t nag, please). Be happy for each other's successes. Meet somewhere halfway between the both of you, if possible. I suggested it to her and we laughed about it but the thought was really cool.

Fantasize together…

Life hits and shakes us in more ways than one could imagine. I’m settling in to the life of a graduate and she’s got to balance that with work too (and I’m guessing Lagos traffic also). I understand this and I don’t want to make things worse by sulking so I brace myself and remain positive.

We may be far apart but we’ll always be there for each other.

I’m sure of it!


"A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."
(Prov. 18:24, ESV)

Comments

  1. UnknownSeptember 29, 2018 at 9:08 PM

    If you miss 'em, buzz 'em.
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  2. PrincesilkaNovember 2, 2018 at 1:30 AM

    This is certainly true and it's a great gift to harness the power of sustaining a relationship. It makes you an indispensable part of your friends life. I am learning how to sustain a distance relationship and this blog made my day. I celebrate You Dear. Looking forward to your next blog. Cheers

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    1. Funmi ObiFebruary 4, 2019 at 12:51 PM

      Thank you and I'm glad this could be of help. You could also check out the latest post.

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